Getting F*cked out of a student....

Putting Your Stick in My Honey Pot

You would think that friends would stand next to you, help you and support you in creating a new school. They would be there to help out with lessons and handing out flyers...but what the hell do you do when they start giving students lessons of a different sort...I don't wanna come off sounding like a NOVA manager or anything like that..but what would you do!?

After several years of working in the eikaiwa world, I was finally given the opportunity to be my own boss. I very well off student/business man offered to help start my own school as partners. Without going into to much detail, it was an offer I couldn't refuse. Most people would kill for an opportunity like this, and I took it. Now I faced the eikaiwa world from a different point of view--I was now management.

Unlike most of your fast-food schools, my school (I believed anyway) had a lot more to offer. One of our advantages was that we held events, once or twice a month (Parties) for students, teachers and friends to meet and speak English. Sometimes, my school would take care of the bill, other times there would be a fee but the teachers, and foreign friends were always free because they would be bombarded with Japanese students speaking to them in English (Or so I hoped although it was not always that way) It didn't matter, as long as everyone enjoyed themselves.

Most of my students (Actually all of my students) were either kids or older ladies. The kids obviously didn't come to the parties, their parents however would. The older ladies often enjoyed the parties, and friends of friends would fill in the rest of the gaps. It was also a time to introduce new people to my school to show them that it was also about having fun. Well, what happened when I got a cute, younger lady as one of my students--nothing at first, and then came one of the parties.

I made sure to tell my friend (A substitute teacher on paper, but he's not ever worked actually since I don't have THAT many students) The first thing he asked was she available. I told him not to make any moves, that this was my student and my means of putting food on the table. Knowing the pattern my friend has with girls, not surprisingly, I got worried.

Here comes my question to all of you out there reading this: if you were in my shoes, or his shoes what would you do?? We all know NOVA's reputation for keeping students and teachers apart to avoid issues like this. I didn't want to be that kind of person. I figured that as a friend, asking him to back off from trying to pick up this new student of mine would be OK. That his pecker shouldn't come before the friendship that we had, because knowing his pattern (He thinks he has falling in love, and thinks that she is in love with him he does everything humanly possible to bed her, including telling her he loves her and blah blah blah!!...The finds little things to pick at, and finishes things with "I love her, but I am not IN love with her." Or "We were just not meant to be, I guess.") will get me into trouble.

If you ask me, I would have backed off knowing that it was only a sexual attraction and that the only that would come of things is a broken heart, and a student lost. As for everyone else out there, I wonder what you would do.

Anyway, after asking him not to take advantage of the parties for his own carnal pleasures he has. He asked for her number, as did other people (Japanese ladies and guys) and he invited her to have drinks and pizza the following week (Actually today, as I write this.) What he didn't know, is that his invitation to have pizza was translated by me. The student came to my lesson and asked for me to translate the email. I knew about he didn't know that I knew. SO I figured I would play a little bit. I made arrangements for a party (With friends only) at a local bar when I called him, he said he had a cold and wouldn't be able to make it. When I offered to drop by his place to give him some medicine, he said that it wouldn't be necessary, trying his best to keep me away.

Anyway, in the end he is on a date with my new student. Whether my student knows it's a date, or knows of his intentions, I don't know. What I am royally pissed about is that he went out of his way to keep things from me, and to try to court this young lady, even though I asked that he NOT do it. At the party, he promised not to do anything unless she approached him first. I figure, if he falls in love with her (I mean REALLY does) then who am I to stop that. BUT, when his getting laid takes precedent over my keeping students at the school, I think that's back-stabbing but maybe I am just looking at things from a management point of view, and what I really hope to achieve from writing this, is the opinions of others out there. Do I refuse to invite him to other parties, do I confront him angrily about being a backstabber, do I just accept the fact that all us guys put sex above friendship,or what?

The way I see things is that he should have just left things alone, and respected the fact that this student was a means of income for me. I think, unless he was truly in love with her, that he should have had no contact with her (Or very little) other than at the parties. As it stands now, there's a chance I will lose a student, one way or another. Either he breaks her heart, and severs all connections (I've seen it happen at other schools). Or they do get together and she gets tutored by him or something along those lines. Either way, I get FUCKED out of a student. This is all of course, if she actually falls for him.

So tell me everyone, what do you think!? Give it to me straight. Am I an idiot, or am I in the right to be pissed!?